What do you think of polygamy?
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06-08-2011, 01:42 PM
RE: What do you think of polygamy?
Problem with poly relationships according to the law is that it qualifies as adultery. Meaning that if I have a girlfriend AND a wife, and my wife decides to leave me, she can claim I was unfaithful. Granted if I can demonstrate that it was a consenting relationship, it won't be considered adultery, but it adds an unfair twist. If I were allowed to marry, then it would be a relationship recognized by the law, which protects all three of us.
Now to be clear, I don't want to marry another woman, but the fact that I couldn't even if I decided I wanted to is, to me, unfair.

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06-08-2011, 04:06 PM (This post was last modified: 06-08-2011 05:47 PM by GirlyMan.)
RE: What do you think of polygamy?
I don't think my wife would go for it. But she did promise me a whore for my upcoming 50th birthday. Smile But I think she was just teasing.

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06-08-2011, 05:16 PM
RE: What do you think of polygamy?
Personally I don't care who marries whom, I think the government should get out of the marriage business all together.

One thing that would be interesting is how divorce would be handled.

Personally I do not want to share my husband, and I'm quite sure he feels the same way, perhaps that's just the way we were raised...

Although I do think that polygamy SOMETIMES reeks of misogyny, but it probably occurs on similar levels of monogamous relationships.

I think that there are different problems with poly relationships, but I suppose people who are in them work out those problems or split...

But hey if everyone is okay with it in the relationship, then good for them, adultry should not be illegal.

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09-08-2011, 05:11 PM
RE: What do you think of polygamy?
Do you hear about the guy who 24 wives and 125 kids?!!!

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09-08-2011, 08:32 PM
RE: What do you think of polygamy?
There's always going to be bad cases. Ever hear about a guy who was so protective of his wife that he locked her in a room? I like polyamory because it gives you a nice alternative to splitting up. Usually there will be a primary love interest it's uncommon for there to not be a "third". Even when I'm not seeking anyone but the single person in my relationship I take comfort in the fact that we don't have to. It's nice to be free to do what you want as long as you discuss it together. Sadly many polyamorists actually still really do cheat even though they don't need to. From going for someone who has been discussed as not an option to simply not discussing their side relationships. It's not as common of an issue but we definitely get it. Being a "third" may sound like a raw deal since the other two will last longer than your part, but it's very enlightening and fulfilling to be in a relationship where you understand both sides. Even polyamorous couples tend to run into a small amount of the length versus communication issue.

So yeah I'm all for polyamory, and it would be nice to be as free as places like Tibet which has 8 or 9 accepted forms of marriage. Tibet also is one of the main examples of polyandry when brothers all want an estate and to share it take a single wife.

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