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19-10-2017, 06:25 AM
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(18-10-2017 03:09 PM)Emma Wrote:  
(18-10-2017 10:05 AM)OakTree500 Wrote:  I think it's comedian Louis CK who says something about how a straight man could go his whole life saying "nope" but would never know he loves sucking dick Laugh out load

Some of us straight/bi non-op/pre-op trans girls are here to help you out with that. Wink

Not me though, I'm taken.

The only one I ever knew in person hated her dick and got rid of it at the earliest possibility. Still, if I were in a different place in my life, I would totally try this with someone else.
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19-10-2017, 06:40 AM
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(19-10-2017 06:19 AM)Mathilda Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 05:50 AM)M. Linoge Wrote:  Zero. No cuts on any of my furniture legs.
Has nothing to do with religion. In part; When I was young people kinda put me off it by either being prudes or... the opposite. My (girl) friend kept telling me to find someone really broken - apparently that's better and/or easier - and just 'get it over with'.
Didn't feel right. I never was much of a joiner.

I've had opportunities in and outside of a relationship but I never went for it. (And that's not bragging, it only proves my earlier statement that some people have neither taste nor standards.)
The real reason - I think; Arousal is one of those things about me that's weird. I used to have terrible trouble sleeping at night. Tried everything, counted 4800 sheep jumping over a bush once before shelving that permanently. Then came the age when you start to think about naked people, and three.. two.. one.. zzzzz

And no, I didn't masturbate, merely thinking about nudes lulled me to unconsciousness in a matter of minutes (where hours of rehashing homework failed, porn prevailed).
I already knew I wasn't designed for company, so I took this as a further sign I wasn't designed for physical intimacy either.


Maybe you're asexual? I'm probably a romantic asexual myself in that I want o be in a relationship, I like the company, the intimacy and the hugs but have no sex drive.

I have tried masturbating in the past but it doesn't do anything for me.

I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

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19-10-2017, 07:09 AM
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(19-10-2017 06:40 AM)jennybee Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 06:19 AM)Mathilda Wrote:  Maybe you're asexual? I'm probably a romantic asexual myself in that I want o be in a relationship, I like the company, the intimacy and the hugs but have no sex drive.

I have tried masturbating in the past but it doesn't do anything for me.

I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

How many one night stands and fuck friends have you had?
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19-10-2017, 07:10 AM
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(19-10-2017 07:09 AM)ImFred Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 06:40 AM)jennybee Wrote:  I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

How many one night stands and fuck friends have you had?

Zero.

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19-10-2017, 07:11 AM (This post was last modified: 19-10-2017 07:15 AM by The Organic Chemist.)
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(18-10-2017 11:28 PM)GirlyMan Wrote:  He does need to realize going in that she's not gonna be as good in bed as a good Catholic girl.

Again, I offer this into evidence.

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19-10-2017, 07:29 AM
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(19-10-2017 06:40 AM)jennybee Wrote:  I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

It would be lovely to be able to enjoy sex. I think my husband realised just how asexual I am when we were at a a swinging club watching through a window as a woman in another room had 6 men perform all manner of sexual acts on her. I commented that it was not really that different from having someone change your nappy (diaper).

The swinging club didn't really work out. I wasn't really that comfortable. All the men were wanting sex with me. At least at a BDSM club I can keep my distance from people because most are too intimidated to approach, especially when they see me using four floggers at the same time. The reason we were there is because repressed memories have resurfaced for my husband. He's needed to reclaim sex and to learn that it's not an act of violence performed from one person on another. A swinging club was going to be cheaper than a sex worker but we found that you get what you pay for. Him going to a sex worker has probably saved our marriage. I'm proud of him for doing what it takes to heal himself.

We finally had one encounter at the swinging club ... with an aggressive Glaswegian hobbit. She was more interested in me than my husband and when we agreed to her proposal she lunged at my face with an open mouth like a face hugger from Aliens. I am particularly squeamish about open mouth kissing so I backed away quickly and she apologised. But it was quite interesting to watch as my husband and she had sex. I could feel her heat rate going through the roof. I don't think I've ever experienced an extreme emotion like that. The closest I came was when I was 800 feet up in the air without a reserve parachute and something resembling a bag of washing above me that was supposed to be a paraglider.

My husband says that he would love me to get a girlfriend and to really explore this side of myself. We chatted about it the other day and I said that sex with women is more likely to be a bonding experience than done for the physical sensation so for me it would feel more like a betrayal. But he says that he understands that and nothing would make him happier than to me see me have a girlfriend. Not that I've ever had any confidence with women so I can't see it happening.
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19-10-2017, 07:34 AM
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(19-10-2017 07:10 AM)jennybee Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 07:09 AM)ImFred Wrote:  How many one night stands and fuck friends have you had?

Zero.

So you don't like the idea of it but you don't really know for sure.

One night stands can be incredibly passionate and exciting. It's shocking how deeply you can feel about another person instantaneously right there in the moment. All present, no past no future. It's primal. Lust and love can have a lot of overlap. You can become flooded with emotion really quickly.

Not all one night stands are sweet like that but some are. I remember some many years later with real tenderness in my heart.

Long term comfortable loving and safe relationships are beautiful too. And important to most people. I've been fortunate to have enjoyed both.

I think you might enjoy the risky thrill of a one off with a stranger.
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19-10-2017, 07:42 AM
RE: What is your Bed Post Notch Number?
(19-10-2017 07:29 AM)Mathilda Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 06:40 AM)jennybee Wrote:  I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

It would be lovely to be able to enjoy sex. I think my husband realised just how asexual I am when we were at a a swinging club watching through a window as a woman in another room had 6 men perform all manner of sexual acts on her. I commented that it was not really that different from having someone change your nappy (diaper).

The swinging club didn't really work out. I wasn't really that comfortable. All the men were wanting sex with me. At least at a BDSM club I can keep my distance from people because most are too intimidated to approach, especially when they see me using four floggers at the same time. The reason we were there is because repressed memories have resurfaced for my husband. He's needed to reclaim sex and to learn that it's not an act of violence performed from one person on another. A swinging club was going to be cheaper than a sex worker but we found that you get what you pay for. Him going to a sex worker has probably saved our marriage. I'm proud of him for doing what it takes to heal himself.

We finally had one encounter at the swinging club ... with an aggressive Glaswegian hobbit. She was more interested in me than my husband and when we agreed to her proposal she lunged at my face with an open mouth like a face hugger from Aliens. I am particularly squeamish about open mouth kissing so I backed away quickly and she apologised. But it was quite interesting to watch as my husband and she had sex. I could feel her heat rate going through the roof. I don't think I've ever experienced an extreme emotion like that. The closest I came was when I was 800 feet up in the air without a reserve parachute and something resembling a bag of washing above me that was supposed to be a paraglider.

My husband says that he would love me to get a girlfriend and to really explore this side of myself. We chatted about it the other day and I said that sex with women is more likely to be a bonding experience than done for the physical sensation so for me it would feel more like a betrayal. But he says that he understands that and nothing would make him happier than to me see me have a girlfriend. Not that I've ever had any confidence with women so I can't see it happening.

Is it just that, that side of the fence, is just not for you? I know I wouldn't be very comfortable in a BDSM or swingers club environment. I'm not a snob or anything, as people can do what they like, it's just not something that "tickles my fancy".

I prefer just myself and the wife, doing our own thing. We'll try (and have tried) all sorts of things, but only together and not with other people.

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19-10-2017, 07:42 AM
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(19-10-2017 07:29 AM)Mathilda Wrote:  
(19-10-2017 06:40 AM)jennybee Wrote:  I think it's interesting that human sexuality has such a wide range. For me, I don't like one night stands or fuck friends, or things like that. I have a high sex drive, but sex for me needs to be with someone I'm in love with and who loves me.

I love romantic parts that come with a relationship and I love having my boyfriend be my best friend. It makes sex better, imo, because there's trust there and you both work hard to please each other. i also feel more comfortable sharing my fantasies with my boyfriend and his because there is that trust there. Basically, sex without intimacy is just not a turn on for me.

It would be lovely to be able to enjoy sex. I think my husband realised just how asexual I am when we were at a a swinging club watching through a window as a woman in another room had 6 men perform all manner of sexual acts on her. I commented that it was not really that different from having someone change your nappy (diaper).

The swinging club didn't really work out. I wasn't really that comfortable. All the men were wanting sex with me. At least at a BDSM club I can keep my distance from people because most are too intimidated to approach, especially when they see me using four floggers at the same time. The reason we were there is because repressed memories have resurfaced for my husband. He's needed to reclaim sex and to learn that it's not an act of violence performed from one person on another. A swinging club was going to be cheaper than a sex worker but we found that you get what you pay for. Him going to a sex worker has probably saved our marriage. I'm proud of him for doing what it takes to heal himself.

We finally had one encounter at the swinging club ... with an aggressive Glaswegian hobbit. She was more interested in me than my husband and when we agreed to her proposal she lunged at my face with an open mouth like a face hugger from Aliens. I am particularly squeamish about open mouth kissing so I backed away quickly and she apologised. But it was quite interesting to watch as my husband and she had sex. I could feel her heat rate going through the roof. I don't think I've ever experienced an extreme emotion like that. The closest I came was when I was 800 feet up in the air without a reserve parachute and something resembling a bag of washing above me that was supposed to be a paraglider.

My husband says that he would love me to get a girlfriend and to really explore this side of myself. We chatted about it the other day and I said that sex with women is more likely to be a bonding experience than done for the physical sensation so for me it would feel more like a betrayal. But he says that he understands that and nothing would make him happier than to me see me have a girlfriend. Not that I've ever had any confidence with women so I can't see it happening.

I never got into the swinging/BDSM/threesomes thing and have never done it. But I know some people on here are into that and that's cool--I think that's what so nice about being free from the clutches of religion, you get to do what you like.

For me, I like sex with one person--whoever my long-term boyfriend is at the time. But that said, I do like tantric sex and Kama Sutra with whoever my long-term boyfriend is at the time. So I like keeping things fun in the bedroom. I also think just giving each other a naked massage can be sexy and turn into other things--but that's a part of tantric sex.

Additionally, since I'm an adventurous person, I find going on adventures with my boyfriend can add to my being turned on. That might sound silly but to me it's a bonding experience and for some adventures I like to do there's sometimes an added adrenaline rush. Also, I love backpacking and being out in nature, if you go far enough, there's no one around and it's kind of romantic just the two of you, relying on each other in the wilderness.

Btw, you do realize our posts are going to cause Eagle's head to explode Laugh out load

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19-10-2017, 07:47 AM
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(19-10-2017 07:42 AM)jennybee Wrote:  Btw, you do realize our posts are going to cause Eagle's head to explode Laugh out load
Somewhere, Eagle is just about ready to explode with rage that people are free to do what they like with whomever they like, without him "owning a clean women", despite the fact he in himself was a self admitted man-hoe at one point.

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