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12-10-2014, 10:40 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:08 AM)Anjele Wrote:  
(12-10-2014 10:02 AM)Forbes Wrote:  That's not right. If you're with someone and you're happy for them to do stuff for you, the least you can do is show some kindness in return, but like I say i've always had trouble finding women who are willing to give as well as take. the whole idea is to serve each other, not just take advantage.

Where does this concept come from?

At a guess... TA (transactional analysis). If all human contacts can be defined as transactions, then all parties in a relationship can be defined in terms of Customer, Service Provider and Supplier

(12-10-2014 10:15 AM)Dom Wrote:  ...
In a good relationship, you have each other's back.
...

Not necessarily.

The win / win scenario only applies to higher value relationships.

Forbes,
What you have is a mismatch due to insufficient understanding of desired outcomes, constraints, boundaries etc. during the selection process and / or insufficient awareness of contract variations.

Have a go at categorising your past 12 relationships and see if there was a mismatch of expectations between you and the 12.

Supplier Categories are:
Strategic
Tactical
Operational
Commodity

It strikes me that you are looking for a strategic relationship but your 'others' saw you as an operational supplier... maybe not at first but perhaps later each relationship morphed into that.

Consider

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12-10-2014, 10:42 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
You know, I expected something so much more exciting when I opened this thread. Where is the entertainment?

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12-10-2014, 10:45 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
I'm pretty sure the OP is misusing the word "serve" and that he's not exactly looking for a servant, as many in here seem to think.

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12-10-2014, 10:50 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:45 AM)undergroundp Wrote:  I'm pretty sure the OP is misusing the word "serve" and that he's not exactly looking for a servant, as many in here seem to think.

I agree.
Using that word can only create problems.
Still good convo tho.....dont you think?

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12-10-2014, 10:53 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:45 AM)undergroundp Wrote:  I'm pretty sure the OP is misusing the word "serve" and that he's not exactly looking for a servant, as many in here seem to think.

Yea but that ruins what little fun we can find here.

I will add then that, if you're the type of guy that immediately starts off with gifts and favors and catering, then you're probably also the type of guy who attracts girls that expect to receive these things and don't feel obligated to reciprocate them. Just find a nice girl and take things slow with the serving until you find out if she's the kind of girl who can serve you the way you like to be served Wink

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12-10-2014, 11:04 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:53 AM)LostandInsecure Wrote:  
(12-10-2014 10:45 AM)undergroundp Wrote:  I'm pretty sure the OP is misusing the word "serve" and that he's not exactly looking for a servant, as many in here seem to think.

Yea but that ruins what little fun we can find here.

I will add then that, if you're the type of guy that immediately starts off with gifts and favors and catering, then you're probably also the type of guy who attracts girls that expect to receive these things and don't feel obligated to reciprocate them. Just find a nice girl and take things slow with the serving until you find out if she's the kind of girl who can serve you the way you like to be served Wink

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12-10-2014, 11:49 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:17 AM)Anjele Wrote:  This 'serve' each other smells of religion doctrine.

Mormon maybe?
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12-10-2014, 11:52 AM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 10:17 AM)Anjele Wrote:  This 'serve' each other smells of religion doctrine.

It certainly does!

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12-10-2014, 12:49 PM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
Funny thing, I am incredibly bossy. I tend to order my friends and family around, but when it comes to girls I like it just the opposite. I want a girl to order me around.

I think what you need is a submissive woman. That shouldn't be hard to find. Just look at how popular Fifty Shades of Grey is.

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12-10-2014, 12:55 PM
RE: Why can't I find a woman who is willing to serve me?
(12-10-2014 12:49 PM)Res Publica Wrote:  I think what you need is a submissive woman. That shouldn't be hard to find. Just look at how popular Fifty Shades of Grey is.

Most men are submissive in the BDSM scene. For women it's more balanced.
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