Why do Christians insist that God is necessary for a good marriage?
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19-05-2014, 12:23 PM
RE: Why do Christians insist that God is necessary for a good marriage?
(19-05-2014 11:54 AM)lovehumanitynotinsanity Wrote:  
(19-05-2014 11:23 AM)wazzel Wrote:  You are mistaken. It really is the deep rooted believe that nothing can be good with out god/christ/etc. My wife has told me several time our marriage could be better if it was centered on christ.

I think there are at least two types. Many Christians MUST realize on some level that these claims are unfounded, because they have enough experience in the real world. BUT, they think this stuff is okay to be out there, because ultimately if it keeps Christians from being unequally yoked then that's a good thing. I think my dad is this type. My mom, on the other hand, really believes this stuff as your wife does. Fortunately, my Christian friends (in their 20's/early 30's) recognize the naivete of this way of thinking, so maybe there's hope! Granted considering they are still my friends even after coming as an atheist, they may be a biased sample.

Having been brought up as a christian you are feed lots of "not good comes except from the father". IMO if a person is a christian they hold this beliefe atleast to a certian level. It was stresses quite a bit in my pre-marriage thing we had to do and in some of the marriage consouling we had. Even the non-church connected marriage counsouler we saw relied heavily on religious material that had the same message. "get right with god and your marriage will be great".
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19-05-2014, 01:06 PM
RE: Why do Christians insist that God is necessary for a good marriage?
(18-05-2014 10:32 PM)lovehumanitynotinsanity Wrote:  I'm new to the forum and may not be in the right place, but I need to vent.

Why do Christians insist in their churches and marriage counseling books that God (their God) is essential to a lasting, loving marriage when they MUST KNOW that there are many, many non-Christian couples out there with just such a marriage. My mom tried to force me and my husband (neither of us Christians) to go to marriage counseling with a PASTOR, not because we are having problems, but because she believes that a good marriage can only come from enacting advice based solely on a Christian worldview! Then a few days ago a childhood friend of mine who is now a YOUTH MISSIONARY posted that a husband can only truly demonstrate love to his wife if he knows the love of GOD (THEIR GOD)! Seriously?! Do they know what they're even saying?! Facepalm

My annoyance with this widespread misconception was reignited tonight when I searched online for advice on maintaining love and respect in marriage and only that popped was some Christian rubbish singing tunes about how men need respect and women need love...as if love and respect are not two way streets! Yeah real sound advice, reducing women to love crazed girls and men to egotistical authoritarians!

Atheists have a lower divorce rate than Christians. I've been married 25 years and my husband and I have never been to church the whole time and certainly have no plans to go either. Atheists also commit less crime too. Funny huh?

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19-05-2014, 02:28 PM
RE: Why do Christians insist that God is necessary for a good marriage?
(19-05-2014 12:04 PM)lovehumanitynotinsanity Wrote:  
(19-05-2014 11:42 AM)Full Circle Wrote:  Welcome!

I can empathize with you. Let me see if I can at least put a smile on your face by telling you a personal story.

When my then fiancee was looking for a church for our wedding there was this cute, intimate Babtist church near where she lived. At the time I was working in Miami and she was in Orlando.

She stops in one day and meets the pastor. She explains the situation and he says that we must first be sponsored by two member families. She thinks OK that can be overcome. Then the pastor insists that we must take marriage counseling classes because "he, and only be, can remove the masks and see our true intentions".

She says this isn't possible because I live in Miami four plus hours away but the pastor continues to insist. He goes on to say that once people live together after marriage it's then too late.

Apparently they go round and round and in frustration my fiancee says "Look, we've been living together on and off now for nearly two years. I can assure you we're compatible".

Silence ensues and then the pastor yells "fornicators"! GaspLaughat

Needless to say we weren't married there and this year will be our 25th wedding anniversary. Big Grin

HA that did make smile, thanks!

All that non-sense with the "true intentions" really gets me. I mean you obviously weren't marrying just for sex... you were already doing it! I knew many ppl from my year at Bible College who either were already having sex and felt bad about it, thus needed to be right in God's eyes by getting married. OR, they couldn't contain themselves and got married after 6 months at the age of 18, 19, or 20! Those are the WORST possible intentions!

As for reasons to get married get this:

My parents wanted for us to get married because what would God say?
My mother in law wanted us to get married because what would the neighbors say?
But when my father in law found out we were comingling funds (joint checking account) he hit the roof and said we absolutely had to get married now!

Notice that "love" didn't come into the picture. Rolleyes

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