do you sometimes think "screw it, i do as i please"?
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21-01-2013, 04:48 AM
RE: do you sometimes think "screw it, i do as i please"?
(21-01-2013 04:34 AM)Aseptic Skeptic Wrote:  No, no, no, I wasn't implying that selfish desire to feel good for charity is the only reason people do it.

However, I'm willing to bet that a whole lot less charity would be done if doing charitable work actually, literally, made us feel as crappy as the way most of us feel when we have to do something really awful, like telling someone they lost a beloved relative for example - if donating to the Red Cross made us feel that lousy, not nearly as many people would do it.

Charity helps people. That's why we do it. But also it makes us feel all warm and fuzzy inside when we do it - that's the positive reinforcement that makes us all actually like doing charity. Consider that amputating a gangrenous limb helps that person, but nobody feels warm and fuzzy doing it - sure, doctors do it to save lives but they don't like it.

Sometimes we do what we have to because we just have to, but usually we also do it because it feels right (and usually that also means it feels good) to do it. Even that doctor amputating the limb knows he's doing the right thing and should probably feel good about saving that life, even if he's not feeling too warm and fuzzy at that moment.
Okay, this sounds much more reasonable. Smile

Plus, why is it that some people feel good when they help someone, while others get the same gratification when they kill, for example? It is all chemical reactions and stuff going on in our brains, so I think that this is not a good enough reason to discard such acts as purely selfish and on the same level of someone going on a holiday or buying themselves something new, for an example (a very basic one, but still...)

Also, in many cases it's a matter of conscious choice - to do what is right, even if there are other things that are possibly easier and more immediately gratifying.

So yeah, I do not agree we only live for ourselves and do what is best and most pleasurable to us, as individuals. If we all did, we'd be living in one sorry society indeed (or sorrier than the one we have right now).

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RE: do you sometimes think "screw it, i do as i please"? - Vera - 21-01-2013 04:48 AM
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