Shout Box
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:47 -- Be friends, be best friends. Smile That's how it works the best. Talk about life, what you feel, things you want without the logistics. Logistics are super important to see if they correlate with values but you can't have an awesome relationship without companionship.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:45 -- I'll try that
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:44 -- Maybe you two should talk more about the relationship, like what you both want, talk about how you feel being stood up, etc. It'll help with everything. Smile
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:44 -- I think we started talking right before last christmas
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:41 -- we've been talking for about 4 months now? we've never met irl cause visa and travel cost issues.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:40 -- How long have you guys been seeing each other?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:38 -- not specifically having a child with me, just her general values on what she wants in life, which lines up with what I think too
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:37 -- Not really, more like "I want to see you" details about.... logistics.... saving money, plans on where to meet in a year once we both have enough money. She's an accountant, she does want to do a 50/50 work/child raising thing where she commits to contributing financially and to childraising
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:36 -- Yea, its a toughie. I really do like her, I mean if she's being honest about who she is
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:36 -- Have you guys talked about your relationship at all. Just the relationship?
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:35 -- :/
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:33 -- Actually I'm kinda worried about that.... I'm pretty experienced and sort of a kinky fuck... I'm concerned when I do see her I might do something that seems safe, vanilla, and normal that might freak her out... she seems to be kinda one of those sheltered types....
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:29 -- Although we have a very... professional.... kind of relationship.... She doesn't seem interested much in romance, and frankly the thing that we seem to agree the most on are issues of cheating, child raising, and common core values... I mean, I'm not super fussed one way another if she's sincere, but it is odd to me
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:27 -- Yup
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:26 -- That's great! Did you reciprocate?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:26 -- Yes
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:26 -- What do you mean? Did she tell you that she was interested?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:25 -- Yea... I mean... as long as I'm not being lied too.... no way to know that though until it's too late...
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:25 -- That's good though. You guys talk a lot and about personal stuff. It's important at least.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:24 -- I'm just grumpy cause she told me she'd be there before I went to bed, I forced myself to get up after having almost no sleep and she no showed....
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:23 -- but we do talk pretty much every day
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:22 -- she never tells me why she does this no show thing, so idk what the fuck that's about. I mean I get that she is working much of the time when we talk, I expect her to not respond often, but you know she said 10pm her time is good for her, she'd be home and yea we do tutoring using skype video call and google docs
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:22 -- Do you guys meet anywhere else on the web? Like Skype or something?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:21 -- oh yea, she'll prolly text me around 6pm
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:21 -- Considering I rarely go to bed before 2am.... I wen't out of my way for her to help, her other tutor charged a ton of money.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:20 -- That sucks, dude. Did you guys talk a lot?
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:19 -- :/
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:19 -- This is the 3rd time I got up at 7am to help her with her English and she no showed on me.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:18 -- No, still dealing with anxiety, so no real sleep. And she asked me to tutor her in English. She lives in Hong Kong... After talking to her for months I decided I kinda like her, she's opinionated about values I find important... well... she's prolly lying to me, telling me what she thinks I want to hear.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:16 -- Did you get any sleep at all? :/ Whatcha mean, dude?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:15 -- >.> I was up at 4 am today... then I went to bed... then woke up at 6:30 and got stood up on my tutoring session. I'm beginning to think maybe I'm making the same mistake again... being nice to a woman I like when she's just out to use me.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:14 -- I go to sleep at 3 am almost every night...
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:14 -- I feels like saying I have to get up at 4 am to me...
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:13 -- HAHA
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:13 -- I have no idea. XD!!
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:13 -- Tongue
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:13 -- ouch, how will you manage?
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:13 -- Ya
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:13 -- Tomorrow I have to get up at 9 AM.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:13 -- That's why I love the forums. Smile Good for good conversation and to get away for a bit
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:12 -- Yea, for reals. But that's why I'm here. I have friends who aren't like them now Smile I've never had that before
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:11 -- Well the first time was when I was 18 and my parents threw me out on the street.... no wait they did that at 15 too for a while...
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:11 -- Jesus... That was a good living. :/ This time be done with them, seriously.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:10 -- Sounds fun, I'm in
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:10 -- This is like the 3rd or 4th time in my life I've had to start over from nothing, once was due to my divorce, the other times were due to interference from my family. Oh and I've made 80k income before, lost it all thanks to these fucked up religious fuckers.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:09 -- I know how you feel. I really do. Come down here. Get some snow and some excruciatingly hot summers.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:08 -- Once I've gotten stable I'm getting the fuck out of california though. I need to be far away from my family to be safe.
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:07 -- Yup, well I gotta figure out how to make the next 2 items on the list happen. Prolly try to save up enough over the summer to move
» JesseB - 17-04-12 14:07 -- I rent a studio apartment currently. Technically it's not legal for me to live here, its kinda missing things needed to be considered a livable space, but its cheap so I don't complain, it is however too fucking small for one person.
» Larai19 - 17-04-12 14:07 -- Congrats though! A car, a new place, maybe a new job. Things are looking up, right?